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jasonderoga86To anyone here who knows somebody called "TwedeeNimbus" (as she's known here on DW) or "GanondorfMain7606" (as she's known on Comic Fury): She's hurting. She just left Oklahoma to live with her partner and his family after it recently succumbed to the GOP/MAGA Hate Virus. Now, very much like the late Joshua Alexander Moats -- a.k.a. "JM" & "Jmluvsbob" -- the toxicity of capitalism in America is robbing her of whatever love she has left for her art. Her last forum post on Comic Fury on JM's "Mental Healthish Things" was a vent that ended darkly. Out of respect for her, I won't post her vent here. But I will post what my response was:
“To my close friends here: Again, I’m breaking protocol from staying out of the forums indefinitely in returning to post after reading this.
Twedee,
This is so awful to hear. I'm feeling the same way right now, as did my late uncle (lost him to suicide 2 years ago), as did an old high school friend of mine (I saved him though) and as did JM himself. It is absolutely frustrating in this day and age how toxic capitalism has become. The SAG-AFTRA and UAW strikes were waged with this simple frustration as the impetus. I hate it as much as you do.
But your last sentence legit worries me. You "wanted" the pain to go away and you "wanted" to be happy.
Please don't do anything drastic, friend. You're one of the few people I have left that actually understands how unfair this cold world is, and apparently also what toxic parenting does to a person. If you need to talk about it, shoot me a PM. Maybe my experiences can help shed some light on how you can move forward.
Until then, PLEASE take care of yourself. Confide in your partner and his family if you have to. Please don't do anything drastic, I can't lose you too.
Nana Kumi-Amankwah, "JasonDeroga"
To everyone at CF: Comic Fury community, please give whatever support / love you can to Twedee (GanondorfMain7606) here. A lot of us are really hurting, and we just lost JM less than 2 weeks ago. We gotta look out for each other."
"All I wanna say is that they don't really care about US."
We lost Joshua to this unfairness. Hell, I almost lost myself to this unfairness shortly after Joshua's passing before Jazz, Matt Zimmer, and A Natural Beauty (Lady Jess on Comic Fury) were able to save me. Also, I feel compelled at this point to have to bring up this issue of toxic parenting to a local community group or something. I have witnessed firsthand from when I was 6 years old what having a malignant narcissist for a parent does to someone, and I've horror stories up the wazoo. I just saw some of the worst of it just this weekend, and I'm sick of it. I already have plans in place for eventually leaving the house but before I do, I intend to make it fully known to my toxic father (the source of all the misery, hatred, and venom contaminating what's left of this family) just how horrible he's been to us... and how pathetic he is to me, because a man of his intelligence and bravado could've easily sought out some help instead of turning his anguish into a weapon to bend everyone in this house to his will. Quite frankly, for a guy who claims to be a strong and accomplished family man, he's gotta be the weakest, most unprincipled, and most treacherous person I've had the misfortune to be born to. As of yesterday evening, he and I are now effectively strangers, NOT family.
But enough about me. Please send some love Twedee's way if you can. She needs it.
Peace and love to you all,
J.D.
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Date: 2023-09-25 02:14 pm (UTC)My heart goes out to her and I wish her the very best. Perhaps there's something I can do to help? We already lost one great artist recently and, by almighty God we CANNOT lose another. Artists everywhere are waging an undying war against the cum-guzzling gutter slut called "CAPITALISM," and I as an artist can relate to this struggle.
And yeah, I'm glad you are separating from your toxic household. I intend no disrespect, but your dad is obviously a real piece of shit. For the sake of your health and sanity, cut the toxic fucks out of your life so that you may prosper. You deserve happiness and success, brother.
No disrespect taken.
Date: 2023-09-25 04:48 pm (UTC)A lot of stuff went down at work last Friday that could've ended in a tragedy when I found one of our clients in a bathroom unsupervised. This has been happening a lot, so I ultimately sacrificed my possible promotion to Art Instructor to stay with closely assisting our clients.
My nosy dad asked me why I was preoccupied with this. I explained myself, and he has the balls to tell me that I'm letting this dictate what I want out of the job and that I should make my own choices there.
To Dad, I responded in thought: "Scuse me? I'm letting this dictate my view on the job? Listen, man. I'm standing up for people less fortunate than me. It's in the fucking JOB DESCRIPTION. Standing up for people, something you know nothing about, cuz you spent your whole life playing the victim and bullying everyone you meet to get your way, including your kids -- and your WIFE. You're incapable of caring for others, cuz you never got any love as a child anyway.
Don't talk to me about people dictating others. You spent your whole life as a parent ruling this house like a tyrant. Anyone making their own decisions in violation of your will here is always subject to dehumanization. The simple fact is that while we're both reckoning with childhood trauma, I'm turning mine into love and care for myself and others. You, on the other hand, made it into a goddamn magic scepter to impose your will on everyone you meet, and have been taking yearly trips abroad since 2019 to build houses to rent instead of retiring at 74. I'm living my life mission, and you're still chasing money. And through it all you're still not happy. I couldn't be more disgusted with you."
Oh, and by the way, Dad's fully onboard with the shit my ex-therapist put me through. It's why after ex cussed out in a rant about how I "wouldn't listen to the fuck my dad say", Dad came home that same evening asking me "what's up with your therapist?" with a casual face. What can I say? Both adopted the theory of "Nana is using his mental illness as an excuse not to grow up." SMH. They're BOTH assholes now.